Judged

Last week, someone at the office celebrated their birthday.

Whenever someone’s birthday happens, they get “surprised” with a cake or some other pastry-type thing. It’s not really a surprise, since they’ve likely been around for someone else’s birthday, or — if they’ve worked here longer than a year — this have been “surprised” on a previous birthday. I find it a bit silly, but anyway that’s not why I’m writing this.

After we sang happy birthday, someone cut the cake and began passing pieces out to those nearby. I smiled politely and said “No, thanks.” The person next to me looked up from their cake, and asked incredulously, “You’re not having any?”

“Nope. I’m good, thanks,” I replied.

They shook their head.

“You’re too healthy,” they said.

“Yeah, too healthy,” another person chimed in.

When a third voiced joined the chorus, I smiled, walked away, and brewed some delicious peppermint herbal tea.


I genuinely don’t understand this.

Yes, I care deeply about my health. Yes, I go to the gym in the mornings. Yes, I bring my own meals to work rather than go out to eat. Yes, I can say no to cake.

What’s wrong with that, and why am I getting flak for it?

Then It Happened Again

On Tuesday of this week, I just finished heating up the lunch I brought. Broiled chicken, asparagus and some fruit and nuts. Someone (different) walked by and, looking at my meal, said “That’s too healthy! Too many vegetables.”

Why does this keep happening, and how do I make it stop?

Written on 25 September 2016